Hey there, fellow moms, dog lovers and readers! I wanted to take a moment to share my journey as a new mom to my adorable six-month-old baby girl, Matilda. Life has been a whirlwind of emotions, sleepless nights, and heart-melting moments since her arrival. Today, I want to delve into the challenges I've faced as I try to combine work and motherhood while grappling with the guilt of not being able to give 100% in every aspect of my life, including my beloved furry baby, Westie Cosmos.
Motherhood is a beautiful, life-altering experience, but it also comes with its fair share of challenges. One of the most significant obstacles I've encountered is finding the right balance between my business and being a mom. It's not easy juggling work commitments while being fully present for Matilda's milestones, nurturing her, and providing the love and care she deserves. There are days when I feel like I'm torn in a million different directions, trying to be a competent professional and a devoted mother simultaneously.
Guilt is an ever-present companion in this journey. As mothers, we naturally strive to be superwomen who can do it all, but the truth is, none of us can be perfect in every aspect of our lives. I've often found myself overwhelmed with guilt, feeling like I'm failing at one role while trying to excel in another. It's important to remember that being a good mom doesn't mean sacrificing everything else, but rather finding a harmonious balance that works for both you and your little one.
And then there's Cosmos, my furry companion who has been by my side through thick and thin. He was my first baby, and I adored showering him with attention, playtime, and long walks. But when Matilda entered our lives, everything changed. Suddenly, my time and energy were divided, and Cosmos had to adjust to the new addition to our family. It was a struggle for me to give him the same level of attention he had before, and that made me feel guilty as well.
However, as time went on, I realized that love multiplies; it doesn't divide. Matilda and Cosmos are developing a bond of their own, and watching them interact and grow together has been an incredible joy. I've learned that it's okay if Cosmos doesn't receive the same undivided attention he once had because his love for me and Matilda is unconditional. We still find ways to spend quality time together, even if it's a little less frequent or in different ways.
As I reflect on my journey as a new mom, I've come to understand that finding a perfect balance is a myth. It's about embracing the imperfect, cherishing the small moments, and giving yourself permission to let go of unrealistic expectations. I've learned to prioritize my time and make the most of every precious minute with Matilda, while also being present and engaged in my work when needed. It's a delicate dance, but it's one that's worth mastering.
To all the new moms out there, struggling to find their footing and feeling guilty for not being able to do it all, remember that you are doing an incredible job. Take things one step at a time, reach out for support when you need it, and allow yourself some grace. Remember that your love for your child and your commitment to your work are not mutually exclusive. You are capable of being a wonderful mother and a successful professional, even if it means finding your own unique way to balance the two.
So, here's to all the moms out there who are navigating the beautiful chaos of motherhood. Embrace the challenges, relish the joys, and remember that you are enough. Your love, dedication, and presence are what truly matter in the end. And as for me, I'm learning to cherish every moment with Matilda and Cosmos, finding my own rhythm in this incredible journey called motherhood.